I think I was helped by quitting therapy in its entirety. I imagine it’s a slower recovery when one is actively engaged in a similar-feeling relationship with someone new. It’s a vulnerable place to be, and not a position I’d put myself in again unless I was in a much worse place. I can imagine for a long time, the new therapist would have a hard time measuring up to the old therapist and the ongoing comparison would fuel the fire. Also the foundation of the relationship with the new therapist would be recovering from the old therapist... seems like triggers galore and a slower recovery trajectory. Almost like as long as the new therapist is around as a reminder, trying to forget will be feutille.

For me, after spending many many years under the weight of therapy I took the ‘rip the bandaid off’ approach and just ended it. Anything else, including finding someone new, just seemed overwhelming. Once she was gone there was nobody judging my actions anymore, nobody to need to explain anything to, no attention... just silence in my head. The triggers were gone though, so the grief was more immediate with a defined start date. Fast and furious drop but faster rebound. It’s been over two months now and I feel 80% recovered.

Best of luck!!!