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Originally Posted by PurpleMirrors
I think I was helped by quitting therapy in its entirety. I imagine it’s a slower recovery when one is actively engaged in a similar-feeling relationship with someone new. It’s a vulnerable place to be, and not a position I’d put myself in again unless I was in a much worse place. I can imagine for a long time, the new therapist would have a hard time measuring up to the old therapist. Also the foundation of the relationship with the new therapist would be recovering from the old therapist... seems like triggers galore and a slower recovery trajectory. Almost like as long as the new therapist is around as a reminder, trying to forget will be feutille.
For me, after spending many many years under the weight of therapy I took the ‘rip the bandaid off’ approach and just ended it. Anything else, including finding someone new, just seemed overwhelming. Once she was gone there was nobody judging my actions anymore, nobody to need to explain anything to, no attention... just silence in my head. The triggers were gone though, so the grief was more immediate with a defined start date. Fast and furious drop but faster rebound. It’s been over two months now and I feel 80% recovered.
Best of luck!!!
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There's no way I'm giving up my T.
My relationship with T was really difficult in the beginning. I had hope that ex-T would take me back, T felt like the "bad guy", I didn't want to attach to someone else, and I did compare the two. At one point I told her I hated her, and at another point I told her I was shopping for a new T. She made some mistakes too. But we worked through it all. I've been with her for 3.5 years, and I don't plan on ever giving her up. We'll taper down more the less I need her, but she'll always be there when I do need her (except if she moves, retires, or dies). She says she wants to rewrite my story: that not everyone leaves me. I want that. And she has helped me a ton! She helped me with ex-T a lot, with personal issues, my darkest secret, with family issues, etc. Even my dad, who thinks there's nothing wrong with me, thinks I should stay with my T.