Some of this resonates with me. My brother verbally and emotionally abused me all through our childhood. When I mentioned it to him recently (how it still hurt) he told me he didn't realize he was hurting me because I didn't show enough emotion. Wouldn't anyone feel hurt if they were constantly insulted and belittled? He was calling me fat when I was underweight. Luckily, I did not develop an eating disorder. But he also called me stupid a lot.