OP
Sorry that ended so badly for you.
I know this would never happen for me, my T is very paranoid about being caught over things but if It was ever an option, I'd go for it, knowing all warnings, for me, I don't think it would be any different than anyone else hurting me IF it ended badly, but then again, I don't think of my T as a T, so it's probably easier for me to disconnect in a sense.
None the less, it's very sad how stuff like this (and just crappy T's in general) can really hurt so many clients. Hope you are able to find a way to heal from all this pain.