Deyla -
Why do you feel like you have to suck up?

He is used to you being passive and falling for his tricks. It shouldn't be tit for tat, but if he isn't willing to put in the effort to make this work, why should you? Relationship takes two people. You have to not care if he doesn't care. Fake it til you make it if you have to! You'd be surprised by how he behaves when you don't react the same ol' way.

Have him come to you next time. You don't need to go to his house where he is probably expecting you to swallow your feelings, watch TV, have sex with him and leave quietly. Earn his respect by respecting your own self, needs and wants.