I’m possibly an aspie , I’ve had an autism specialist think so and some teachers and brought up the idea to a previous psychiatrist ..

I think that if you propose to her, telling her how you feel and how you’ll never let her go again is one way of putting all the cards on the table. If you do that and she says no, I would give up all together. But if you do that, you should at least hangout with her a few times or something.

Personally, if you wanted a break with non of my input, I’d never forgive you and I would never be with you again. I would never feel secure in a relationship, esp if you didn’t hear me out and made such a decision after a long time being together.

Persistence is good, but too much is never good. If she tells you to leave her alone forever, or anything to that affect, I’d just do it. If she has done this, you risk receiving a restraining order and stalking or harassment charges.