I wouldn't necessarily ask for guidance as much as I would discuss how you feel lost and want to ask for guidance. I'd discuss the male ego state's surprising appearance (yes, good thing, you're struggling and came up with an ego state to deal with that, we're wonderful that way!). Now is when you need to keep trusting "yourself" and that you can find your way and guide yourself. No matter what, it is always your therapy and I think your T will gently always say what he said, to make sure you always work at guiding it. He literally can't or it's not yours. No matter what he suggests, if you follow his directions you're following someone else's ideas for your life or, if you decide his ideas suck and go your own way, you're using that to "bounce off of", like repelling down a cliff and that's probably not a good use of him either.