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Old Nov 02, 2018, 10:55 AM
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Why not just go back to your T and say what you are feeling? And ask, explicitly, "Are you saying you want me to go see someone else or end therapy with me? I know it is my choice but what is your preference."

I think it's generally true that if someone says, in therapy, "my friend thinks this," that the therapist will assume this is an indirect way of expressing what the client actually thinks herself. Your therapist may think you want out and is trying to make it clear that it is your choice, and not trying to pressure you.

I had a very similar situation with my therapist early on. I interpreted what he said as, "he wants me to quit." I was really heartbroken. I went back to him and asked if this is what he meant. I had been completely mistaken. Some of us are really sensitive to the possibility of abandonment. We're ready to see it in everything. It's better to ask, and not assume.