Rescripting works well for me and my system basically just think of it as something from the imagination. Oversize it basically so that it doesn't seem like it is real this is called healing so that it doesn't control you. See it as a teddy bear so that the mind heals and you don't have to seem sooooo empathic when it might not matter right away. The conversation lead can be, from several years ago this use to harm me now it is this or that. Avoid the brother at all cost and anything associated with it, get brother like folks so that at least you will have brother respect just a little we all need to that ...When families are together what is happening? For me the missing you would be replaced with like a clone that is happening on the TMZ of the world this seems like home for me.