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Perna said:
No matter what, it is always your therapy and I think your T will gently always say what he said, to make sure you always work at guiding it. He literally can't or it's not yours. No matter what he suggests, if you follow his directions you're following someone else's ideas for your life

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I hear you, Perna, and I have those worries. I've always chosen the therapy path, listened hard to what was deep inside of me and pushed on toward healing. On the other hand, I am not a therapist and I don't know what to do. I don't understand ego state therapy, how to integrate it with EMDR or other healing techniques, etc. Do I have to read a lot of books on all this and then tell T what to do? Do I have to go to the university and take courses? I don't get how I can guide therapy if I don't know this stuff. Plus, maybe there are therapeutic techniques I am unaware of, so how could I even suggest them? I also feel on the one hand we need to solve my current problems and so we need to work on healing the 7 year old. And I know EMDR helps with that. But then this male is here and what????? Do I somehow deal with him? Should we just ignore him and go ahead with the EMDR? I think T may have insights and maybe know better the order to do things in? Plus we have the clock ticking with some real life problems that need to be solved. I don't know. It feels like too big of a decision matrix for me to deal with, especially since I am lacking the expert knowledge of a therapist. Maybe T could give me some options for how to proceed and I could choose what seems best to me? Or would that be cheating?