LT, as I was reading your Dear t post I thought of the many posts in which you've wished your therapist had said something different, and have been very specific about what they could've/should've/might've said instead.

I have seen that calm down a lot with this t.

I wonder if sometimes bumping into those edges, the line between what he actually says and what you later wish he'd said instead, might be helpful in some ways. So often as he clarifies, you get some insight into how these micro-misunderstandings (that we ALL have when we're communicating with other humans) work and how to navigate them in a healthy way.

If he were constantly trying to figure out and accommodate how you might perceive what he says, he would be less steady. Always shifting on his feet.

Hugs. It's encouraging that you're also developing enough trust to be able to dig deeper into some of the hard things you're trying to deal with in your outside-therapy life. I admire your courage.