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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Really? I guess I just think it's natural if I've been hurt recently that I'd struggle more with trust. In the same way that if I'd been in a romantic relationship with someone who really hurt me, it would be more difficult to trust the next person I dated. Maybe it's just an anxious attachment thing?
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I think trust is pretty complex and probably deserves its own thread. I don't think it was so much what you said about being hurt being related to trusting in general. I think it both is and isn't, and the isn't part for me is that when someone is hurt when they trusted another person, what does that have to do with another person? Whether someone else was trustworthy or not doesn't have any bearing on whether the next person is, unless it's more about your ability to accurately judge who's trustworthy and who's not. If X was untrustworthy, that doesn't make Y, a totally different person, more or less trustworthy.
I also find it difficult to understand what being trustworthy means in the T context. It sounds like you think if your T is trustworthy, then he'll never say or do anything to hurt you. I am oversimplifying this, because there have been things said and done in the course of your therapy that have been hurtful to you, or at least that's my understanding.
But I thought of this context of trust while I was reading Brene Brown's most recent book about leadership, and she defines it in terms of behavioral actions, seven different categories of them. I thought it was interesting, to try to nail down what trust means. Seems pretty applicable to any kind of relationship, including a T one:
http://creativebynature.org/wp-conte...01/BRAVING.pdf