I want to ask my T about her boundaries and tell her that after my last two long term therapists, I really need a T with clear and solid boundaries. I need a T who is not going to let her own stuff get in the way of my therapy. I want to tell her about what my last T said in regards to growing enmeshed with maternal figures throughout my life (therapists, teachers, mentors etc), about how she said - “I wonder if you just have that affect on people.” I’m scared though the topic of her boundaries is too personal to talk/ask about and she will feel uncomfortable and see working with me as having a bunch of red flags. Anyone have advice or thoughts about what I should do, say, or how to bring it up?