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Old Nov 04, 2018, 06:32 PM
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Originally Posted by NP_Complete View Post
I agree with what you say about person X and person Y being different people, but if person X hurts you it can make it harder to trust person Y. It has nothing to do with how inherently trustworthy Y is. In my experience, that can bleed over into the T relationship. If I've felt hurt by enough people, I start to extrapolate that mistrust onto every relationship, even the one with my therapist. I think for me, in my therapy, it's about trying to loosen up and give people a chance.

This, exactly. I'm glad you understand, including the extrapolating to other relationships. Because this is what I was doing with T saying how he probably doesn't think about me for the rest of the day--I started thinking, if his mind is more like how most people's minds work, does that mean everyone in my life doesn't think of me at all once I'm out of their sight (or not actively texting/emailing them, whatever). I know that's likely not true, but that's where my mind goes.