I've only just read about what gaslighting is. I had no clue!

I was gaslighted and manipulated for 6 years!! The amount of times I was told "you're too insecure" " you've got issues". My ex told me he had cheated on me but said he would only tell me the truth if I did 'things' for him. And when I did them he would brush it off and tell me he never said such things. I believed him! I doubted myself. I really didn't know the truth. If I brought up things that bothered me he would say I was being insecure and sensitive "you need to work on your issues" he would say. I didnt even know what my 'issues' were. I would actually plead for him to tell me what my 'issues'were because I had no idea. But he would never tell me."I think you know what they are". But he still woudlnt tell me. He used to tell me that I had to find out how to resolve them by myself. He would say "it's so easy to fix". I'd start to panic thinking that he would leave me if I didn't find a miraculous cure to my 'issues'.

He confessed once to triggering my jealousy on purppse so he could use that as an excuse to break up with me. While he was going behind my back having a fling with a married women. I thought it was all my fault!! so when he was finished with this other women all he had to do was walk back and say "I love you let's give this another try and I thought I was lucky