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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I had a falling out with my sister, niece, and mother three weeks ago over something really insignificant. My niece unfriended me, my sister berated me for it, and my mother invalidated me and refused to listen to me complain about how much it hurt me, mocking me.
None of them have called me. My mother has twice posted mean quotes on my facebook wall to give me a dig, quote that imply ‘get over it’.
They know how hurt and angry I am.
They are really not going to call me again, ever.
I’m obsessing about it constantly and too depressed to even leave the house. I’m putting on a happy face for my husband and son and doing basic chores.
It feels too painful to my pride to call any of them and either act like nothing happened or apologize for nothing except I took offense to being hurt.
But, honestly, if I don’t call they will NEVER call me again. In the past, which this has happened many times with my Mom, it was always me who called. She turns it around and says it’s me hurting her.
I’m really not going to call this time. I’m in very much pain from this. I really mean so little to them as they can’t show any kindness. I’m sad.  |
That's painful. So painful.
I suffered so much from my mothers rejection of me I had, for my sanity to let go of her. Let go of any hope she would ever care because I realised no matter how hard I tried - mother would never love me.
After a time of grief for my absent 'mother' (I cried solid for a month) I began to feel better. I expected nothing from her, nothing. I gave up on her. And - ultimately it was a relief. Freedom from toxic family.