My own mother is very similar to this. I broke contact years ago but within the last 2 years have spoken to her about the hurt she has caused. Not all but a flavor of you are not off the hook for what you have done. I would be really ill if I had contact with that entire family. I know she will die soon. She and the father are on oxygen and have major health issues. A lot from smoking. I have no pitty for them. I will not have a relationship as I need to do what is best for me. I know I am okay and I can make my world be filled with family of choice who love and support me. I hope you can do the same. Some mothers are just plain toxic.