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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66
How does your mental illness challenge your loved ones?
My boyfriend is really struggling. He is desperate to be more supportive and help in my personal battles (mostly anxiety and depression). He does his best to encourage me. Yet despite his efforts, this time around, my anxiety is so strong his support barely makes a dent in it. It is not a matter of him being insensitive or saying the wrong things for he actually is very positive. But he struggles with seeing me remain in my worried state and/or funks. Seeing me throw up everyday is troubling for him.
He is also troubled with the lack of noticable improvement since I have started therapy. He has made the mistake of thinking that therapy is a solution which will improve my situation. I have told him there is no fix that the answer lays in my developing some coping skills. But this too I point out won't make the anxiety go away. It merely allows me to challenge and cope with it. He is grasping at straws trying to figure out how to help me.
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I understand this completely. I am married to an amazing man (14 years on December 23rd) and he is so loving and supportive that I don't understand it. I was raised in a very abusive and unsupportive family and I still have scars that i haven't dealt with, so I react to him in, what I consider, inappropriate ways. I feel so guilty and I have been so sick (physically) heart surgery, bleeding ulcer, type
II diabetes and the burden of running the household has fallen on him completely. Iknowhe's tired and he never says a word or complains, and then I still react to him like he has the potential to be an abuser. I'm scared all the time and I have panic attacks daily that he feels helpless to help releive. I've been off my meds since the surgery so I rarely sleep and my moods are all over the place. I'm trying to get back on meds,but they literaly have to have a committee meeting to determine what mes will e safe for me. I'm waiting for a call back and I'm losing patience. Sorry this is so long. I seem to be really wordy lately. - Mary / PaintedTurtle