Thinking now that I may need to terminate or at least take a break. Seeing him for extra session (though I may cancel Thursday) today to address something he said at the end of session. Where we were talking about his email where he was listing examples of his caring. And in session, he said “I care about your success.” A bit later, I said, through tears, how that statement (or “I care about your well-being,” as he’s said before) feel different to me from “I care about you.” I guess maybe I can as hoping he’d just say “I care about you.” Instead, he said he’d have to think about it more, that he didn’t want to give me a half-baked answer at the end of session. But, like, why does he have to think about it? I guess it’s some boundary or whatever (he suggested as much in his email reply to my voicemail). So I’m going in there this afternoon and...I guess I’ll see what he says. But I’m thinking I may need to at least take a break, if not just outright terminate. And now I know a question to ask potential T’s: “are you willing to say to your clients ‘I care about you?’” If not, then bye!
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