I think looking for a t who has experience with strong attachment may be best for you. That could be the big issue here. T is nice and all but your attachment keeps growing and he's unsure how to handle it. Making it up as he goes. He's basically said that before and a t with more experience in this area is probably gonna be best for you in the long run. I'd honestly ask a potential t if they are experienced with strong attachment and explain your history with it. I know it may be hard to leave this t but it could be best for you. There's always the choice to come back to him down the road