LT, my husband went through a phase of needing (and sort of demanding) he hear the words from me. It was draining and exhausting to be on the receiving end of that constant doubt and demand despite everything I said and did that clearly showed my devotion and love and affection. It really felt like a constant slap in the face, like being constantly told I was failing as a spouse despite all evidence to the contrary. It came very close to driving me away from him because it was such a beat down. He finally learned how to trust the evidence, give me credit where credit was due, and respect my own autonomy in our relationship. I’m wondering if your therapist is trying to get you to see how your actions can affect those around you.