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Old Mar 02, 2008, 10:42 PM
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Any sense of familiarity and responding as if X person is like Y person is usually transference. In regular life, I think my husband is very like my father and that may be true (whereas your male T is not likely to be like your father because you don't get to know your T that familiarly to know what he's actually "like" in detail) but there's quite a bit of transference going on there which is okay since I really liked my father and it doesn't get in my way; but it could get in my husband's way! For example, I am still always surprised that my husband stops the car and has me drive when he gets tired, my father never turned the car over to anyone else, always had to be the driver. I get a little resentful that he doesn't just keep driving, especially when I don't feel like driving :-)

So, yes, if you're still working on issues from when you were younger and people you didn't get along with or who abused you or even who you feel give you trouble now, then there's going to be transference.
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