I have to post this just to show the invalidation.

Other sister texts:
Her—I hear you and the fam are mending fences.

Me—Yeah the mom, b, E, and K incident was awful. We made peace but nothing will ever be the same. E blames me 100% and she’s wrong. There’s too much deep hurt in this family and I can’t change mom. So we hung out yesterday at A’s parade and she liked that. As long as I’m doing for her.

Her—Well hope you feel better...

Me—Let’s try this again. This family is not mending fences. We merely moved on from the incident. It is less painful for me to have a minimal relationship with the family than to be estranged. I have been patronized, minimized, lied about, and shut out by refusal to communicate (a form of abuse). I accept that is my family. I deal with my anger privately. I will give back exactly what is given to me.

Her—Ok. I’m running errands and getting an oil change