you know in an attempt to help me put things into perspective my t asks me all the time what i would say if it was my granddaughter cutting... i can't begin to imagine what it would be like... my love for her is so intense... i wish i cared half as much about me... your asking the hard questions... keep it up... i think that the schools are trying to educate the kids before they follow through the first time... i don't know what the answer is... because not dealing isn't the answer either... when i started... it was pretty much ignored... and not addressed... if it had been it would have been looked at much differently then it is now...you may have already answered this so if you have forgive me.... is your son in t to help him with his anxiety... that really helped my boys when they were little...lyn