Yes, he seems to think that if he just doesn't say things like "I care about you," that will make the transference go away. When...that's not how it works. I know he's not overly trained it in, but surely there is plenty of literature out there for T's to check on how to handle it. I think he's like "I must not do any of what ex-MC did" when really some of the stuff he did helped me, it was more the fact that I couldn't really work things through with him as my marriage counselor. Well, OK and that he had really inconsistent boundaries, but honestly, this T's boundaries have seemed hazy lately, too. Or at least arbitrary.