On the one hand if you're bring up a past offense or event to someone in order to get them to react differently, yes that can be something that is an attempt at control.

Seems to me that communicating to the other person as to why you're not satisfied with their reaction or behavior and having a conversation about the differences of your views would be more productive. I'm not at all saying that you should simply move on from the issue but confronting someone again about the event itself is probably not going to give you the outcome you want. What may, is looking at the situation and figuring out why it was so disturbing to you and talking about the deeper issues that clearly are there would be better.