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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
Well first thing I would point out about your situation is that it seems rather drastic to be believing you know so much about this person after just 10 days. Spending 10 days with someone IRL wouldn't even be enough to know a lot about someone, let alone an online friendship/relationship. Stop, slow down, think about things and really consider this.
Second, it seems to be that you're getting drawn in. Most of your post is rather fantastic, describing her in almost entirely positive ways which to me could be at least a warning flag. How many people do you know or have known either in real life or online that you really know, that have that many check marks on the pro side with barely any negatives? take a moment to also consider if the persona she is portraying is real or not. We all put our best foot forward in an early relationship but sometimes people go out of their way to mask any negatives, disagreements, and hide things by going along with a lot more than they really like to.
This is all speculation, of course and I am neither saying that it's likely a "catfish" situation or that it's not, but yes, there are some reasons for you to take a step back and analyze things. Even in the best of situations where she is exactly what you describe I would recommend this. In a situation even where the person is just right for us, rushing things and getting too wrapped up in them is a bad thing.
I have more I could say on this but essentially it all points to you being more cautious and don't take everything you see now as "fact" time will tell and will bear out the realities of who you're involved with.
Btw, on a last note, being deceived by someone does not necessarily have to be for monetary reasons nor is it always about getting something material from the other person. Catfish are the extreme deceptive situation but there are many - as I have known and been involved with - people that will do so for other reasons, even something as simple as the excitement of having someone so wrapped up in them. Sometimes it's a game, and it's an ego boost for them. So don't write off that you "may" be being deceived.
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She did say she would like to visit someday but not anytime soon. She can be a little cold which matches my experience with Russians when I was in college and is certainly very emotional, swinging one way to another but it doesn't feel like she is bipolar.
I see your point about other motives, but that isn't a horrible thing as I still have someone to talk to which is better than what I had before. That is kind of sad, I admit.
I guess I will see how it goes. Whether or not she is real my biggest concern is becoming attached in a very unhealthy way. Given how long I have been alone plus my mental state I think it is a real concern.
Thanks
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