this is a tough question to answer, as when I was living with my mother, she didn't really do anything like hug, kisses, anything like that- most of the physical stuff she did to me was abuse- which makes me associate physical contact with abuse and horrible people.

that said one of my wishes in life is to have a mother who loves me, someone who can hold me close and give me a hug when I need it, hold my hand, give me kisses... though I suppose I'd also be scared of the contact- I really don't know. I don't live with my mom now, and sometimes I will be asked can I hug you, and I won't object to it, it's just.... I don't know really. confusing situation to be in.
where is your safe place, and why is it your safe place