Bill3, thank you. That is an important question you bring up. What it would take for me to consider resuming relationship with this person would be for her actions to match her words. The following is just an example of many inconsistencies that would need to cease:

Words: Before she asks me for help, she would sound very considerate by telling me how sorry she is for troubling me.

Action: She would keep returning to me frequently (and excessively) for help; especially at last minute (including early mornings), or expecting me to drop important events in my life for her. When I imply I don't think I could help her, the considerate demeanor turns into a demand where she pushes boundaries. One time, she even used a subtle threat.

Words: After I help her she would tell me repeatedly "I hope it was not too much trouble." I mean, it's overdone. For example: Unreimbursed carpool and rides: Telling me this at pick up; drop off; and then texting me after I leave to tell me this the third time.

I was left confused because she starts out super-considerate, then becomes micro-aggressive when I refuse, then goes back to being super-considerate afterwards to make up for it.