Thanks. As you say it´s more or less like a death of a person who meant so much, it´s just devastating. I think ghosting her was the "right" thing to do for me as well as I didn´t want to like "treat her nicely" by cancelling as she has abandoned me and I had nothing to talk to her about on the phone.
As you I feel nothing had been resolved by talking to her as I´ve already had two phone sessions and even if she said she was sorry about what she did she still abandoned me.
May I ask you what you T lied about?
I don´t generally like endings like this, who does, but in this case there was no proper solution to it all. What she did was not just a mistake to feel sorry about and by that she could never be the person consoling me in my grief. Perhaps you felt the same.
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Originally Posted by Calilady
I abruptly terminated with my former T, so this isn’t the same, but she did offer a phone session (and not an in-person one) to “talk about it.” In my case, I caught her in a lie.
I did not call. It felt like a death and I was extremely sad for months. I think I did what was best for me. I wasn’t going to feel any better after a phone call and nothing would have been resolved after a phone session. So I didn’t call.
You don’t owe her anything. Her feelings are hers alone. If you’re doing the best you can, that’s all one can ask.
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