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Originally Posted by ennie
What are some of the signs that someone is really changing? How can you tell the difference between a sincere, long-term change and a temporary fix that they put on just to keep you or get you back?
How long should I see a consistency in a changed behavior to be convinced? I have had an experience with someone reverting to old behavior after months of hiatus, so should I give it like a year?
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You're asking questions that are very subjective and relative to the situation at hand. there are really no hard fast rules to this.
First thing you should accept is that nothing ever is entirely permanent nor is behavior, of all things, ever static. Ask yourself this, if you have a certain way of behaving or set standards, do you ever slip up or ever change that behavior, whether temporarily or longer term? Do you expect that once someone decides to change, that they are never allowed to make a mistake in that area again?
To be honest you seem to want to find concrete answers to things that are not so cut and dry. We all strive to change certain things in our lives and we all likely experience equally successes and failures in those things. I know that there are certain behaviors that I've tried to change and have reverted to old but I keep striving but because I've slipped does that mean that I never was committed to change or does that just mean I'm human and fallible like every other person on this Earth?
For you, stand firm in your commitment to growth within yourself but allow others the grace to fail, as you'd hope they'd give you that if you do.