It takes some time to get through the feelings & process them.

Like I said I had initially hoped my leaving my now Ex would have been a wake up call for him to change. After 11 years away from him this last summer we had some good closure conversations. I found out that while had initially hoped he would realize he needed to change, he was sure I would come back to him because he didn't think I could make it without him. He said after 2 years & I didn't come back he realized I wasn't coming back & he must have been the reason I left.

Everyone has their own thinking about breakups/separations. If communications were good in the first place the breakup probably wouldn't be necessary.

When we put all our eggs in one basket & it crashes we just have a ton of scrambeled eggs to sort through. Better to get out more, have more interests & acquaintances. Friendships grow out of knowing & proving trust in people. It's not just about picking someone you want to be friends with.

I had no friends when I lived with my husband. He definutely wasn't my best friend either....but after leaving him & the environment I was able to open myself up in a way I never had before in all my life. It is possible.