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Originally Posted by still_crazy
im only now living in a place of my own. each person's story is different. for me...i needed to live at home, but then i over-stayed and it made things worse. now, i have my own place near family, and there's a much better balance of time with them vs time for me to develop my own life, at long last. and so...
try not to feel so terrible, if you can help it. as a culture, we push people to be independent and all that, but sometimes...its straight up impossible. plus, even when its possible, it can be very isolating, because we're wired to need other people.
try to be thankful that you have a job. not to guilt trip you, but...im so stigmatized in this area, that now ive largely recovered, im healthy, i even somehow have an IQ high enough for me to do a lot, and...no one will hire me. "the world waits for no one," I guess. the only reason im not in a group home or homeless is because my parents are now "well-to-do," for this area.
maybe you don't need a romantic relationship right now? or if you do...maybe its time to reject this notion that you have to be 110% all together before anyone will want you?
hope this helps. :-)
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Thank you so much for this. It's true that there's a lot of pressure to "be independent," and I find it kind of stigmatizing. Although I am an introvert, I do get a little lonely being completely alone sometimes, and sometimes I'd get anxious when things go wrong when I am all alone. Even though I'd like to work on some things, I definitely do need to work on my self-esteem, because I tend to pressure myself in "having it all together" to be with someone. I'm probably not ready at all for a long-term relationship, especially since it's hard to take care of myself right now emotionally and otherwise.