My Support Forums - View Single Post - Dear T:I Really Need to Tell you Something... Part XXXVI

Echos Myron redux · Nov 09, 2018, 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by LabRat27

Possible trigger:

I want you to have some kind of emotional reaction to finding out that I cut again
I want to feel like you care
I'm a manipulative and terrible person
I'm ashamed
And part of me feels like I should just not mention it because then I'm letting myself be manipulative and giving myself what I want
If I don't tell you then it wasn't manipulative, right? Then I wouldn't have been doing it for attention.

For "attention seeking" I read "attention needing".

You need something from your T and you don't yet have the tools to get your needs met another way. That doesn't make you manipulative or bad. Manipulative is so pejorative. You are simply expressing your needs the only way you know how. Be patient with yourself. Eventually you will have the resources to get your needs met in other ways.