just remember that the mind has been PROVEN to have neuroplasticity (the ability to learn & change). Just because a person sees things one way doesn't mean that their mind can't learn to be more mindful to see the big picture of life, people & what is REALLY going on around them. You don't have fo feel that you are stuck being this way forever.

Like I have said many times....just because OUR mind doesn't think in hurtful ways doesn't mean we aren't CAPABLE of recognizing the behaviors & red flags or danger around us. We have to be careful we are not using things like that as excuses for our own behaviors.

I caught the home care person who was subtly abusing my mom when she was dying of cancer. From the first day I had an uncomfortable sense about the whole situation when my mom came home frpm the hospital. (Long story) I put pieces together over those next 5 days. Everyone around me said NO WAY things like that don't happen to people like my mom. I refused to listen to what they said & I listened to my own gut feeling. I was right but I did such a good job of protecting my mom that the evidence the police needed she didn't provide because she knew I stopped payment on the 2 checks she wrote. Does it mean I think like that evil home care person because I was wise enough to be observant & see the things she was doing? NO WAY but I am also not nieve enough to not be aware of when something not right is going on around me. We owe it to ourselves & sometimes those around us to learn to be wise & aware. We used to call it having "street smarts" (beong aware of what might possibly happen)....kinda like my old computer programming days of using flowcharting...."if / then/ else" works on life too & helps us stay more in our logical mind.

Ok....off my now