I am not sure anymore if I am the one over reacting or if I am corecct.

Here is the story. I have been married to my husband for 15 years and we had our ups and downs. The last 2 years have been pretty bad and we did not really have a good relationship at all.

Coincidentally I found text messages between him and the woman that works for us, that are in my opinion over the line and I consider it flirting. for example:

her: "I will be on vacation and I will be topless at the beach"
he: "now you get me all hot and bothered"

she made a mistake and said "**** me"
he: "you have to by me dinner first"

there are plenty more sexual texts like that and I felt really hurt. He said that its just their personality and he would never do anything. And I do trust him, he said he would not do it anymore, but does not think they did something wrong.

I met her the other day for the first time and she was so excited to meet me. She knows that I do not like the texts but she does not think she did anything wrong. I felt totally awkward and all the feelings came back.

I feel like I am the bad guy and my husband even told me that I made their communication awkward. Instead of seeing that they hurt my feelings, they do not apologize or anything.

Am I the one in the wrong and did I over react? Or are they not getting it?

THanks