(((((Deyla)))))), you did not fail and the truth is that a lot of people DO struggle when it comes to relationships and ending them. So your ex came to your job, well, when he did that he was actually disrespecting your boundaries, you had a right to get angry at him. Unfortunately, your ex has learned that he CAN disrespect your boundaries and that's why he did what he did when he showed up at your work. This is one of the reasons you left him Deyla. You did open the door for his intrusion though when you contacted him and even told him you were expecting to hear from him. You made a mistake, but you can "learn" from it. You gave him too much "control" when you did that. He doesn't DESERVE to have that kind of control over you. You actually know that which is why you are crying. It's ok to cry and it's always best to distance so you can "feel" whatever you are feeling so you can calm down and begin to access what your emotions mean.

Crying typically happens when a person experiences something they don't know how to control, something that hurts them, even something that invades their personal boundaries and Crying often comes from some kind of unmet need too. We all start off with "crying" because that's what we learn to do when our tummies hurt and we are hungry and we cry out of a need to be fed as babies. It's the only language we have when we are small babies.
So, crying tends to happen when we lack the language needed to get a need met. Crying happens when we are tired, frustrated, cold, hungry and confused or frightened too. Well, you wanted something from your ex that he was not giving you, instead he was selfish and actually abandoned you. We all cry when we experience that challenge, we begin crying when we are very young not only as a baby but as a child growing up too. It often reflects an "unmet need".

You are in a phase in this relationship where you are crying out for him to provide for you and he isn't listening and what he does do is invade your boundaries instead and he "hurts" you. It's no wonder you would react to that by crying. You have been abandoned before, well, it's time to learn how to understand why that happens. You cannot fix a person who is selfish and doesn't care. You have a desire to fix it, but what you need to learn is that you can't actually fix him, instead you need to learn how to better see the kind of person that "fails" you like this. When someone fails you like this Deyla, it's not your fault or that you don't deserve it, it means the other person CAN'T give it to you. You need to learn how to stop giving a person that is like this too much "power" over you. It's not an easy fix but you did the right thing by walking away because he clearly is incapable of appreciating your efforts to care about him by returning care back to you. Perhaps you think that by walking away from him, it would get him to miss you and see you more, maybe he would react by giving you the attention you wanted. Well, what did you learn? He can't do that, instead he invades your boundaries. This means to GET RID OF HIM.

All this guy was was a con artist. He conned you into a relationship, but he never cared about you, he was just manipulating you. Actually, it's very much like Berney Madoff who got really good at conning people and a lot of people believed him, really talented intelligent successful people. All he did was use them and their money in his scheme until the money he got from them to play his scheme ran out. There were people that bought his scheme and even gave him more, in the end these people ended up finding out they were taken for a lot of money. Madoff never cared, about any of them, he just played all of them. People like Stephen Speilburg trusted him and were totally embarrassed to finally find out he was using them.

You are not the only one that fell for what seemed to be "Mr. Nice Guy" that seemed to "care". Yes, a guy like this can move on "quickly". You did the right thing when you broke it off and walked away. Now you need to stick to that and have nothing more to do with him. He just proved once again to you that he is incapable of respecting and caring about you.

Understand????