I think this is a terrible idea. It would be for me, anyway. And frankly I find the suggestion on your T's part pretty strange. For me, my parents' points of view or memory of the past is infinitely less important than my own. At least as far as therapy is concerned. Insofar as past events come into my therapy at all (I rarely allow that) they're important only in how they affected ME.

I mean, what if I talked to a parent about some abusive event and they denied it happened, or remembered it differently? Not only would that be hurtful, it's totally irrelevant. My perception of the incident - my problems, my memories, my nightmares, my symptoms - they don't just go away because someone else has a different viewpoint.

The whole idea has me so flustered I'm having trouble articulating myself. You asked what we would do - well, I just wouldn't do it. Period. And I'd want to punch my T in the face for even suggesting it.

Good luck with everything.