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Originally Posted by TheSeaCat
I feel like crap today to the point where I wore scrubs to work instead of the usual business attire. I spent most of the night fighting with the boyfriend; I think we are on the last leg. He keeps getting medical bills from his asthma so I called his doctor since I'm one of the contacts he allowed release of information too and apparently his doctor has been saying everything I've said. I just can't stand by every time he has an asthma attack when he would just use the stupid nebulizer. I asked him to take a long lunch and tag along when I go to the Cardiologist; since I am honestly terrified. He told me no that work was more important. I am honestly terrified of getting bad news, or getting dismissed. He's also annoyed that when I made my appointment for a pap I made it with my usual doctor who is a male and he felt the need to fly off the handle. I just don't care about his temper tantrums. He is two years older than I am and he wants to act like a child.
<snip>... I can't ask boyfriend's mother because well he'd get even more mad.<snip>I just don't want to make the boyfriend more mad; but I also don't want to go alone.
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Originally Posted by TheSeaCat
Therapy was eyeopening tonight. He called me a strong intelligent women who deserves some happiness. He thinks the boyfriend is a large man child. <snip> I didn't feel like going home and facing the boyfriend and or the parents.
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Auntie thinks I should truly call it quits with the boyfriend which I can't think about because we've been together a year and he is my second longest relationship.
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I just feel conflicted.  |
Soooo, he intentionally doesn't take proper care of himself, yet expects you to just keep putting up with the consequences, work is more important to him than your fears, so he won't go with you to an appointment, but gets mad about anyone else going, flies off the handle about the doctor you see, you need to unreasonably alter what should be self-directed decisions so that he doesn't get mad....
And you can't think about calling it quits because you've been together a year??
Your T recognizes him as a big baby man child and so do I. I had one of those and finally ditched him after 9 long years. I absolutely kick myself for waiting so ridiculously long (and mine wasn't even getting mad every other minute!). You've got plenty of evidence that this is not a healthy relationship for you. Act now. Don't wait till you've lost a decade. Just sayin'.
Now that I'm done being bossy....
No really though, it doesn't seem like there's much to be conflicted about there.
I agree that taking the PA up on their offer sounds good. Support can be hard to come by. I'm glad you have such a person to help.
