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Originally Posted by Innerzone
Soooo, he intentionally doesn't take proper care of himself, yet expects you to just keep putting up with the consequences, work is more important to him than your fears, so he won't go with you to an appointment, but gets mad about anyone else going, flies off the handle about the doctor you see, you need to unreasonably alter what should be self-directed decisions so that he doesn't get mad....
And you can't think about calling it quits because you've been together a year??
Your T recognizes him as a big baby man child and so do I. I had one of those and finally ditched him after 9 long years. I absolutely kick myself for waiting so ridiculously long (and mine wasn't even getting mad every other minute!). You've got plenty of evidence that this is not a healthy relationship for you. Act now. Don't wait till you've lost a decade. Just sayin'.
Now that I'm done being bossy....  No really though, it doesn't seem like there's much to be conflicted about there.
I agree that taking the PA up on their offer sounds good. Support can be hard to come by. I'm glad you have such a person to help.  |
Thank you I really needed to read that! I don't find you bossy at all
I was very pissed when I got off the phone with his doctor, he was blaming his doctor when a lot of these hospitalizations could have been avoided with the stupid nebulizer he doesn't like. I was really annoyed when he said work was more important than my appointment, it's not like I asked him to take the day off just take a long lunch and work later than scheduled that is what I am doing. I know his boss would have been fine with that, besides he honestly isn't going to get his dream job with how much work he has missed this year; honestly it's a wonder he hasn't been fired for to much missed work.
I was really stunned when he flew off the handle about the doctor I see; he's the only reason I'm stable right now. He's just mad because it's a man, best of all he called my father to tell him about that and I got an earful from my father. Now he wants to care, yeah right.
I think I am honestly done after his latest idea of calling my dad. Now I am terrified to go home; because I don't want to deal with my father suddenly flying off the handle that I trust a man. How about anytime I trust a female it ends up badly for me. He doesn't understand any of my issues.
I agree that is not a healthy relationship at this point, he used to be always on my side about everything, now it feels like anything I do upsets him. I don't know what his problem is; and honestly I don't want to know what his problem is. I got enough issues of my own that I don't need his pilled on top of it.
I ended up not sleeping well last night and decided to text PA for coffee, you are exactly right, I need support and I don't have a lot of support. I'm still holed up at Aunties house, I imagine my cat isn't too pleased with his separation anxiety, but honestly I'm not ready to deal with the parents.
Thank you Innerzone I really needed that wake up call. He and I are done.