I don’t think I could ever tell you how much your support means to me. My family owns a restaurant and I work there with my stepfather, brother and a co-worker. That is where I met him. I don’t talk much to the clients besides normal day to day news. He is not a guy I would date at all. When he messaged me on fb, I found it ok but I never thought I would go out with him at all. But one day I had the need for a favor, my car broke down and I didn’t have anyone I could ask for help as it was after the storm in PR and he sent a message as I was going through the situation. He said I could repay with a date. I said yes but every time we had plans I would cancel, it was after the 4 time I made plans that I finally went out with him. He was nice and I really had a good time. As I continue to date him I always had the feeling and I told my brother several times that he was not this nice person he wanted me to believe he was. But he continued to do nice things for me and I was so grateful that even if something that I didn’t like I would just always try to work things out. As things got more serious and we started spending more time together we started to fight more often. My daughter moved away for college and he just decided that he could stay over, (never asked). Things will be fine if I decided to bite my tongue and ignore something he did. Basically Monday thru Thursday he would stay at my house and weekends at his apartment, since he knew I’m at work, can’t call, he had a free pass. Most times I was fine, it just bothered me if I asked what did he do and he would avoid the question. There was this Sunday that he came to the restaurant and he was so drunk that he would fall asleep sitting on a chair, I was so embarrassed! As you could imagine I heard it from my family. I saw all the red flags and I ignored them, why? Because I always try to see the good in people and I don’t give up so easily on people I care for. I know I probably set myself for failure! After all I knew from the beginning, I just knew he was going to change. I should not have let myself fall for him. I don’t know why I made the decision I made but it happened and I can’t change that. I know that what I am feeling will pass and it all make me a stronger person and I’ll make better decisions in my future. I tried my best to maintain our relationship but it didn’t work out, and as we say in PR, better things will come (not that I am ready!!!) Today I felt better than yesterday, didn’t cry and didn’t think so much, and I hope tomorrow I will be better. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement, I do really appreciate your time. When one is sad a lot of things cross your mind and your words help me stay somehow sane, and don’t currently believe that I am this psycho over jealous person he made me think I was. With your support, my mother, brother and co-woker I am able to see that he was just a manipulative person, who would have continued to handle me as a puppet. I don’t believe anyone should have to go through what we had to go through to maintain a relationship. There is no love, if you have to lower yourself to make anyone else happy.