Deyla, I haven't read all of the thread, but it sounds like this guy knows how to pretend to be nice to lure women in and then only after a while does he show his true colors. I haven't been in a romantic relationship, but I can be too trusting and nice and let people take advantage of me. It's something I'm working on.

I had the "friend" (she wasn't a real friend, but she would call me whenever she needed something). I felt sorry for her because she was mentally ill, blind, and homeless. So I would do things for her like paying for her to stay in a hotel, buying her groceries, and driving her wherever she needed to go. I did this mostly out of guilt because I felt sorry for her. But when I tried to establish some boundaries by saying I couldn't drive her around late at night anymore because I had work the next day, she responded with a very nasty message. She called me the C word and said some other nasty things. Then I realized that she had been taking advantage of me, and I realized that the reason she is homeless is because of how she treats people who try to help her. Her parents are sick of her and won't let her live with them.

Anyway, after she sent me that message, I blocked her number. I'm not going to have anything more to do with her. I might hear from her again because she is constantly changing phone numbers, but she hangs on to my number. But if I get another text from her, I won't respond.