You could tell your parents and father that it's really sweet that he would want to be involved the old fashioned way where the father gives away his daughter. golden, while you are an adult and 48, your parents will continue to see you as their little girl, and that's just how it is when you are a parent. You don't have to entertain guilt, just let them know you appreciate the sentiment but that you prefer to have a quiet simple wedding and would rather focus on saving so you can have a nice honeymoon. Just be honest, your parents will get over it. It's your wedding, what you have chosen to do and agreed to do with your finance. Weddings are very expensive, even small weddings are very expensive now. It's not like it was when your parents got married where weddings were so much more affordable.