Looks like your parents don’t see you as an independent savvy woman but still see you as a young girl who needs to be “given away”.

I disagree with open eyes that it’s normal for parents to see their daughters as little girls. I beg to differ. My daughter is a widow, she is free to marry again or not and do whatever. Her well being is very important to me but I don’t see her as a little girl at all, I see her as strong independent professional successful woman, not a girl. I’d find it hillarious if my parents wanted to “give me away” at my wedding at 50 and I am close to them.

Do they see you this way because you lived with them on and off in and off and were dependent on them? You could remind them that those times are over.

I see no need to feel guilty. I’d feel guilty if my decision effected their well being. It does not. In fact you can tell them directly that you can’t afford it.

Saying that it sounds that you thought they’d pay for wedding and honeymoon? Maybe I misunderstood. I don’t know anyone whose honeymoon is paid by parents at any age (unless maybe money gifts could be used for that). Certainly yes parents often pay for weddings if they can and want but I guess usually for younger folks and it’s nothing one should expect.

Really wedding or no wedding isn’t important. Ensuring that your marriage is healthy (issues with fiancées anger and fixing his job issue etc) should be a priority. I wouldn’t tell parents that of course but I’d tell them that you have different priorities in your relationship