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Originally Posted by downandlonely
Deyla, I haven't read all of the thread, but it sounds like this guy knows how to pretend to be nice to lure women in and then only after a while does he show his true colors. I haven't been in a romantic relationship, but I can be too trusting and nice and let people take advantage of me. It's something I'm working on.
I had the "friend" (she wasn't a real friend, but she would call me whenever she needed something). I felt sorry for her because she was mentally ill, blind, and homeless. So I would do things for her like paying for her to stay in a hotel, buying her groceries, and driving her wherever she needed to go. I did this mostly out of guilt because I felt sorry for her. But when I tried to establish some boundaries by saying I couldn't drive her around late at night anymore because I had work the next day, she responded with a very nasty message. She called me the C word and said some other nasty things. Then I realized that she had been taking advantage of me, and I realized that the reason she is homeless is because of how she treats people who try to help her. Her parents are sick of her and won't let her live with them.
Anyway, after she sent me that message, I blocked her number. I'm not going to have anything more to do with her. I might hear from her again because she is constantly changing phone numbers, but she hangs on to my number. But if I get another text from her, I won't respond.
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A lot of people tend to kind of make feel sorry for them so they could manipulate you so they could have their needs met. But as one gets to know them you realize it and that’s when it has to stop. And believe me, when they get their chance to tell you how evil you are, like it happened to me on Friday, when he came to my work. I am glad I told him then that I didn’t want to be his friend and then I asked that if he believed he was a good person, like he always said he was, to please stop hurting me. And since then I don’t know anything about him. She might try to contact you again but if she does hang up, it’s your cell and you have no obligations with her or just plain and simple tell her what you feel. There’s a lot of services available that she could utilize, she needs to go somewhere, then call an uber. I’ve come to believe that sometimes trying to be a nice person could backfire. So as for me I learned my lesson , can’t and won’t ever be again in this position. I have to make decisions with my mind!!!