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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66
Just how often were you messaging one another? Were you a confidant to him? I differ here from the others in that your mentioning texting is huge tip-off to me. I am of the opinion this is inappropriate from the start. Sorry, that is just the way I feel. No doubt this is based on previous experience. I also want you to consider what was the nature of the relationship history he has with his girlfriend. Were you the only female he communicated with or has he made a habit of this? I point out that you don't know the whole backstory here as to why his girlfriend was upset or uncomfortable. Finally, please don't take this all personally. This is an issue between her and him not he and you.
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I wouldn't say that I was a confidant to him, and he has mentioned having other female friends, just not ones that he's made at Uni. That was something we originally bonded over, actually, that, even though we're in our final year of study, neither of us have made a friend at uni. That's because where I live, most people go to Uni right out of school which means there's a lot of cliques, and both of us are considered "mature age", even though we're in our mid to late twenties, making us up to seven years older than our classmates. From what he's told me, he had a fair amount of friends outside of university and they all had what he called "dinner parties" once a month, when all his and his girlfriend's friends - both male and female - would get together and go out for dinner and drinks. He invited me along once, but I get anxiety and one of my triggers is actually eating in public, so I declined.
Just out of interest, why do you think this was inappropriate?