It appears Larry64 that I have a pretty hard core view on this. I guess we can chalk it up to personal experience.

In the relationship I spoke about it very much got in the way and affected it. As example, the social media contact was a particular problem when I discovered he took some of these 'friendships' into real life. His relationships outside our own began to take a precedence in that I took a back seat. When such activity is a distraction to the real relationship then it has definitely become a problem. In my opinion, sitting there texting a 'friend' while they ought to be putting the attention on you is definitely a problem which should never happen. Perhaps there does exist others out there who might agree that this is a no-no. I am pretty sure there will be some that agree this is all not very comforting.

I am happy for you that you were able to salvage something important but wonder if you felt forced to concede to your original judgement. I think it important thusly to voice your boundaries, even if it means disagreement.