Hi. I am glad you have changed your thinking on this and that you know you want to spend the rest of your life with her. I would be very careful though around telling her when she can text her male friends and about asking to see the texts. That is too far controlling. She will resent it, most likely, and will feel you don't trust her. In order to fully let go of your past, you must allow yourself to give her the benefit of the doubt and trust her more. IF she chooses to tell you what they're texting about, that is her choice, but in my opinion, you don't have the right to ask to see the texts or to tell her they must be transparent. I also don't think you have the right to tell her when it's appropriate to text her male friends. Unless there is reason for suspicion, why make it seem like it's suspect from the beginning? Get my point?