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Originally Posted by scarlett35
Ah yes I get that too. Unfortunately you cant control what other people are thinking and my T was always reminding me that we are not responsible for how other people interpret what we say to them. As long as youre not meaning to cause offence and the intentions are good, thats where our control over it ends!
Theres someone in my work place who says some pretty offensive things sometimes that could actually upset some people. Other people think its hilarious, its all personal preference really  we wont get on with everybody even though i always wish I could haha |
That's true.
I think one of my biggest concerns is the fact that I was one of the "popular" guys in school when I was still social, and I always feel a pressure to get back to at least that level, because if I couldn't do that despite lots of effort then that would feel kind of rough, and it would definitely make me feel a kind of unpleasant melancholic nostalgia as well.
But then again, junior high school at the age 13-16 is a lot different from university, especially when I don't have that "social flow" from childhood with me in the same way.
I guess I could start with simply getting used to being around people to begin with, and "worry" about making a good impression around them later.
Also I do typically notice positive response from people when I feel reasonably comfortable with myself, so that's good as well.
I also like to think that the fact that I used to be really outgoing should give me an advantage - I have this intuitive feel that I have my former social personality within me somewhere, and it seems to show itself in situations that are "comfortable enough".
One of the security guards at my school actually got concerned about me when he saw me about half a year ago since he thought I looked concerned and uneasy, and he even asked me if I was using drugs (wtf?) since I appeared to be stressed out (I felt uncomfortable when he detained me like that and asked questions), but then a few weeks later he met me again when I felt more relaxed and positive, and he was blown away by the difference and looked genuinely shocked.
So yeah, that's cool I guess.
