My ex-wife and I are friends. We have been divorced for 7 years, and have four children. It took us about two and a half years past our divorce to get here, but we have committed to our children to spend major holidays like birthdays, thanksgiving. and christmas together. And have been doing so since out divorce. It has worked out well for us, and the kids love that we get along. at 17,16,14, and 9 they understand that we make better friends than a married couple, and they are glad to see us getting along after the crap of the first two years. We have been "family" for more than half her life, and have been in relationships where our significant others are included in our friendship with no issue.

But here is where the issue comes in.

My gf of five years (off and on) tells me that my relationship with my EW is "inappropriate". She says "divorced coupled get divorced, and then they separate."

I believe this is because her relationship with her ex husband is extremely contentious. My relationship is not inappropriate, it's simply atypical.

I have been to multiple therapists, and all of them commend my EW and I for making the mature decision to maintain a relationship in this fashion for the benefit of the kids. All of our friends say the same. Even strangers who we meet and who learn about our situation, all say the same thing.

But, my GF says everyone she has told about the situation says it's inappropriate. Including her therapist. I have offered to come to therapy with her to speak with her therapist about the situation, but her therapist refuses to see both of us.

Suggestions? I will answer any questions. I am an open book with regards to this.